Sunday, October 3, 2010

"No" is a complete sentence

Last weekend I had the priveledge of attending the Women of Faith conference. One of the speakers shared this thought:

"No" is a complete sentence.

Yes - and if someone with a microphone says it to 9,000 plus women - then it is gospel truth.

I don't know why I feel like I must justify or explain all my "no's." After all - I really should know that fact from the wealth of parenting books that I have read.

My momma once said that when you say yes to something you don't want to do, then you are taking some one else's joy. If you were called to do that something, then you would know it, and want to say yes. Otherwise - you are not saying yes for any good reason.

Stealing is wrong - so since then, I have become much more comfortable with saying no. Trust me - no one is going to say that I stole their joy.

But, when I say no, I feel like I need to explain. "I can't help in the children's church this week because we are having car issues, and I was helping on Wednesday night, and etc. etc. etc."

Is it really helping me to say no to stuff if I am walking around feeling guilty about it? I mean someone has to hang out with those younguns in children church, and we all know that no one is going to step up and volunteer and that they are always going to be short staffed.

Happiness project commandment #2:

No is a complete sentence.

I can say no and not need to explain to you why I am not going to. Or, if I gave birth to you, then I KNOW you do not need me to explain to you that you can not have cookies at 5:00 because then you will not eat your dinner at 5:30. Go ahead and make that sad puppy dog face. I'm done feeling guilty about that.


  1. We must be on the same wavelength today. I am sick of mommy guilt, shame and nonsense. I'm putting my kids to bed early tonight as my toddler has a little fever and I'll be dealing with her tonight (ps: WHY are they always sick at night??), but I do NOT feel guilty about it. The knuckleheads need to get to bed soon!
    aka: Mamajulep

  2. Found you from someone pinning your "Birthday Random Acts of Kindness" and I think you must be a great mom. I just turned 40 and want to start that tradition. I think i am going to start a list tonite of 40 of them.
    I do want to read the Happiness Project. Looks good!